In becoming a licensed foster mother, I’ve received overwhelming support, frustrating remarks and developed even more compassion for the innocent children that have been labeled some pretty insensitive titles.
I think there are some facts people need to understand about Arizona’s enormous need, to begin with. There are thousands of children in our state being raised in modern-day orphanages. I have seen them. I have volunteered in them for years. They are not homes, and they are not designed for children to grow up in.
When you are asking, “Why are you doing this?” Please don’t think automatically, “You must not be able to nor have a desire to have biological children.” I’d think this is common sense, but again, I was shocked at some of the remarks I’ve received over the past year…DO NOT ask if we are doing this because we couldn’t have our own kids. This is incredible hurtful and insensitive. For anyone who would be struggling with infertility, this could be incredibly painful to hear from someone. Also-having these kids in our lives, is a privilege for us. This isn’t the second best option. This is our BEST option.
Do not let your curiosity override kindness. This goes for so many things in life.
Please DO ask why we are doing this. I’d be more than happy to tell you! I understand it’s not an everyday occurance where someone under twenty-five and newly married goes out to foster kids. I wish it were more normal, for the sake of the kids that need people to care for them, but please ask why!
We are doing this because we have been chosen and adopted into God’s family. He has lavished love and acceptance upon us: I’ll always belong to him. Tanner and I love each other. We have an amazingly supportive family. We have friends that want to throw a party for us. All of our needs have been provided and we think that with the help of our community, we would be really good at loving kids. I know there will be hard days and behavioral challenges. After all, every child hopes that their parents will love them unconditionally and be able to meet their needs. Unfortunately, not every child is granted that, and heartbreaking behaviors result from that trauma. But we aren’t alone, and I hope we can have your prayers and support too, as we venture into this new season of life; may God’s name be glorified on the beautiful days, and hard days alike.
Thanks for reading.